How to be More Talkative
You may be a good flirter, a good joker or a good boyfriend who can
have an endless no limit phone sex with his partner but those skills
won’t come out if you avoid meeting new people, avoid making new friends
and avoid going to social gathering! If you do then it clearly means
that you are an anti social guy, you can also say that you are a very
shy person. Being shy and conserve is good but we would like to tell you
mate that being a shy person all the time is not going to help you
specially if you want to get a girl or when you are going to a party.
Also when you are working you need to be social in order to gain trust
of your fellow colleagues. They are no fool talking to you and if you
don’t talk back. Here are some tips on how to be more talkative and
social:
Be self-aware. Think about the "small talk" rather then
babbling without knowing anything, try asking kinds of questions that
people generally ask you when they're getting to know you, and come up
with a good answer beforehand. An appropriate answer would include a
general answer and a few details.
Read morning newspaper and
watch news on your television regularly. Local and national happenings
are always relevant, and you never know what interesting conversations
you might be able to participate in simply because you're up to speed on
the latest story. Current events also make an excellent conversation
starter. "So, what do you think about.....?”
While asking
questions. Ask open ended questions. "How do you know the host?" Or,
"What do you enjoy the most about your job?" Steer clear of yes/no
questions because if they don't entirely kill a conversation, they make
it much more difficult to keep dialogue flowing.
It is important
to be interested in other people. Basic fact of life: people love
talking about themselves. Ask questions about other people's lives, and
really listen when they answer. You can ask follow up questions about
their response so they do most of the talking. It still comes across
that you're talkative because you're asking great questions.
Be
confident. Assume that when a person asks you a question, they really
want to know the answer. Many people shy away from conversation because
they assume that it’s just a formality. Most conversations start with
small talk, but they can end up being great conversations if you are
confident and take sincere interest in the other person.
